Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Shock of a lifetime

A day before we left CA, we found out some very unsettling, shocking news... I had developed 4 tumors in my lungs. I had gone in for my routine CT scan Monday June 21st, a day after returning from Lake Tahoe. I wasn't too nervous about it because I didn't expect news any different than last time-a clean scan. Not that I'm naive about this disease and how unpredictable it can be, but being that I had a PET 2 months ago that was clean, I figured it would be fine. Well, it wasn't obviously.

So, Tuesday Eric and I went in to see the doctor, go over the scan results, and get my last injection before returning home. When the doctor delivered the news, I almost didn't believe him. I could tell even he was in shock and didn't expect these results. Nonetheless, we were quite disappointed and discouraged. Here I was in CA doing this clinical trial, thinking I was getting the drug, and hoping that it would work and prevent any recurrence. And now we're faced with news like this. And this changes everything. With the disease now spreading from the primary tumor, then to a lymph node, and now distant into the lungs, I am now Stage 4. That is very scary to me. I know what the statistics and prognosis were for this stage. And let's just say, they are NOT on my side. But I'm determined to beat the odds.

Eric and I were emotionally devasted at the time, not sure how to react or what to think. The doctor went over some treatment options which he had previously discussed w/ the team there, all of which I knew about through prior research, forums, and talking w/ other patients about their experiences. The one good thing about Stage 4 is that there are MORE options than Stage 3. Maybe not great options (because most of them either have a low complete response rate or they are in clinical trials), but at least there are several different treatments, and many that are new and upcoming, paving the way to finding a cure.

The next step was to get a lung biopsy, which was done today. This is done to rule out other possible scenarios (CT scans don't differentiate between cancer and non-cancer growths.) Over the last week, we have kept the news a secret (other than family for the most part) since we didn't have conclusive results of the biopsy yet. The news was what we expected-metastatic malignant melanoma. Even hearing that news was difficult, because it sank in and became reality. This past week has been tough, I won't lie. My stress and anxiety levels have hit an all-time high as I try to one, cope with this news and two, start researching these treatment options. Not fun. I was really hoping to come home and enjoy the summer, take the kids to the pool, go on lots of family bike rides, go camping and rafting, and just enjoy the time together as a family again. Now, I have to deal with this and make a decision and move forward with treatment in a short amount of time. While we don't want to make a hasty decision, we also must act quickly, knowing that these tumors are most likely progressing and possibly growing somewhere else in my body.

I will say that through many prayers and going to the temple with some good friends (including our Bishop) last Sat. night, I feel peace. I feel my Savior's arms wrapped around me. I know He loves me and I know, without a doubt, that He is watching out for us and preparing a way. In the deepest part of my gut, I know that I will survive this and be healed. I will be one of the "lucky ones" and live to raise my children, and fulfill a greater purpose on this Earth. I have always felt that this trial was to help others somehow. I'm not sure what that will entail, but I know that the Lord is preparing me, refining me, and strengthening my faith, all to help Him serve a bigger purpose. Yes, I have doubts at times. Right now, lots of times. I'm scared out of my mind for the unknown, for what treatment I will have to endure, for how long this could take to be healed. But I have to have patience. I have to know that the Lord doesn't give us more than we can bare. And only He knows how much that is. He sees the big picture, He sees what we truly need, and if we endure, have faith, and remain faithful, He WILL bless us beyond our wildest dreams. I just know it. And I need to hold onto that.

Right now, all we ask for is your continued love, support, and prayers for us. We are extremely blessed with such amazing family and friends around us and we have felt ALL of that love many times. It is overwhelming to feel that love and know how loved we are. We thank you for that, and know that we couldn't continue this journey without that.

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Home Sweet Home


We are finally home, after 3 long months away. Man, it's good to be back. And the best part? (Besides being as a family again.) That we came back to the beginning of SUMMER. When we left, it was the tail-end of winter. Green grass, bloomed trees, warm weather, LOVE IT!!!

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Lake Tahoe

We spent 5 fun-filled days in Lake Tahoe reuniting with family in celebration of Erin's wedding. Like any McEvoy get-together, it was pure caosis as always, but such an amazing time. And we couldn't ask for better weather too (minus the cold nights)-sunny, cloudless, 70 degree temps! We stayed busy with boating, hiking, swimming, hanging out at the lake/beach, paddleboating, family barbeques, scenic drives, and of course, wedding preparations and festivities. I think we wore the kids out pretty good!

Austin and I on the boat the first day

Tahoe Keys

The cousins, keeping it real, as always

Austin and Brett driving through Emerald Bay

Eric tearing it up, well trying to. It was quite choppy and cold!

Carson and Dad taking a stroll on the beach

What a cute, little beach bum

Captain A was fully entertained with sand, water, and a stick

Going in for the kiss

Eric and Eric Jr.

Love this family photo of us

Some of the kids on a hike, showing off their muscles

Little daredevils

Ethan and Austin, practically brothers

Cascade Falls w/ Emerald Bay in background

Anna and Alan, the newleyweds

Emerald Bay, this picture doesn't do a justice

Overlooking Emerald Bay

Rubicon Bay-I had to trailblaze and bushwack my way down there to get a photo. Love this place! When I win it big in the lottery, I will build a home here someday! :)

Getting ready to paddleboat

We pretty much went in circles, thanks to A's fantastic stirring skills

Feeding the geese goldfish

Pre-wedding Festivities

Prior to Erin and Ryan's wedding, we had a little bachelorette/girls-night-out dinner at this delicious, breathtaking restaurant right on Lake Tahoe. It was a fun-filled evening with family and friends, all there to celebrate Erin's day! Friday night, instead of having a formal rehearsal dinner, we ordered pizza and helped set up for the reception. Fun times!

The bride-to-be

Anna and I

Karilee and Kimi

The party, yes we were a sight to behold and kept the restaurant entertained with our antics on the beach!

The McEvoy girls (minus Tiff who wasn't there yet)

What a view and sunset! Looks like a postcard!

Putting up lights for the reception

Donna and Jamie making mum balls for the little girls

Cutting up lemons and limes for drinks and garnishes

Lining the walkway w/ a bit of Tahoe-pinecones!

Erin and Ryan's wedding

We celebrated the marriage of Erin, Eric's youngest sister (9th in the family), in Lake Tahoe at Fallen Leaf Lake, at the waterfall. The setting was stunning, weather perfect...It was hard to keep the kids clean (hence the reason I opted not to put my boys in white shirts at the falls) and from falling off an edge into the river, but fortunately, the ceremony started early and was over quickly. Erin looked beautiful and happy and Ryan was certainly beaming ear to ear! They definitely looked two in love! We hope you guys have a long, happy life together!

Ceremony location, Fallen Leaf Falls

Love this man

Most of the grandkids, which is hard to get a pic of since 1/2 of them are under 5 yrs!

Waiting for Erin to make her entrance

Erin w/ her Dad

Erin and Ryan saying their vows

It was hard to hear because of the waterfall!

First embrace as husband and wife

Love this shot of Rog w/ them

They weren't even posing for any cameras, I just caught this glimpse from below the rock

The McEvoy clan, all 45 or so of them (I think some were MIA)

The wedding party

Reception

Beautiful flowers

And table arrangements, complete with "Tahoe" sand and pinecones

The backyard

The cake, coconut (Ryan is a chef and made ALL of the food)-it was delish!

The beverages

Brett and Heather's cute family

I love the look in Austin's face as he "peers" at his brother mischeviously. So Austin!

Our sweet, little family

Kevin and Kari's crew

Carrie and Ella

Admirers

All the McEvoy sisters

The "real" sisters

Carson and I having a moment

Erin with the nieces and nephews. It wasn't so easy to get the boys to cooperate for this pic!

I'm the luckiest girl.

Cutting the cake

The first dance!